so it turns out i suck

i went to a mini conference in a mini town called dodgeville tonight and found out that i suck.  the night was spent talking about personality traits and how they effect relationships and i totally got blasted because one of the points was that you can't change people and when you try it really ends up sucking for you, the other person or both.  that is something i have known, but it really kicked my a** when i heard it again tonight because just earlier today i was trying to change cyndi.  sometimes i forget that she isn't me and that she shouldn't have to be, because let's face it, who wants more than one of me around.  why is it that i can't seem to remember this lesson for more than a week at a time.  i just don't want to turn around and fight with cyn about the same stupid thing next week because i can't permanently get it into my head that she isn't just like me.  i need to remember that cyndi is a feeler when i am a thinker and that she is a perceiver when i am an evaluator/judger.  if i continue to expect her to think rationally when she is in the midst of feeling or to evaluate when she is in the middle of perceiving, it will only blow up in my face.  so it turns out i suck, how 'bout you?

gregg

ps.  cyndi promised she was going to start posting soon, and using the things i learned/was reminded of tonight, i can't push her or expect her to do it on my time scale, so beware...for her virgin post could arrive at any moment.

Comments

[Cory]

I can feel your pain...I tend to be stubborn and forgetful too...or maybe just selfish. I think the ladies do it too at times, but not to the same degree.

And hey, why don't you add me to your blog list...I did spent a week with you and everyone else on that list you know! http://rhythms.blogs.com

[Mom (K)]

Hey, Love this idea, now I can tell everybody what kind of kid you really were !!! NOT going to happen BUT you get it from your Dad, I agree with Cyndi. Love ya'll Mom